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New submission from Victoria
am a teacher in a local school, and live in the catchment area. This is rarely an issue, but one former pupil has repeatedly verbally harassed me while I have been in the community. While on route to the gym, coming home from the hospital and even walking to the corner shop I have been told, “Looking good, Miss”, “You’re hot” and recently “I’d f*** you.” The final comment caused me a lot of anxiety when I came home, and has made me uncomfortable to go for runs or be out in my community. Because he is a minor and no longer at the school, it is difficult for the school to intervene, but even discussing the issue with colleagues was helpful. I am still upset with this behaviour being demonstrated and not challenged by any of his peers that were around.
New submission from Amy
I woke up after a night of heavy drinking for my 20th birthday. My memory is never clear after drinking and I walked to uni worried that my peers would remind me of embarrassing behaviour. What I wasn’t expecting to be told was that I was chased down the street by a man holding his bare genitals in his hand. The worst part is, I have no idea what this man looks like and I am afraid to walk around my neighbourhood alone. I have also lost count of how many other times I have been shouted at or leered at in the street. I do not feel safe alone, even during the day. These men aren’t afraid to do what they do even when there are lots of people around.
New submission from Sarah
Was walking down the street looking at a text I’d just received when some random guy walked passed me and kissed me on the cheek then walked off, I was so shocked I didn’t even say anything just carried on walking. It still makes my blood boil when I think about it now, why does someone think it’s ok to get in someone’s personal space like that!!
New submission from Sarah
I have been harassed numerous times but I’d like to share a recent incident which occurred at Walthamstow Market. I was harassed three times at the same place.
So I was walking down Walthamstow Market, and like always, I am quite a victim of sexual harassment. This young man approached me and yelled “oi sexy” in public…in front of others. Many people turned around to see who he was referring to and it was me, I ignored it and carried on walking while he had a massive grin on his face. By this time he had his hand on my shoulder but I sped up and he carried on yelling “oi!” until I was far enough to lose him. I felt embarrassed, enraged, furious and just when I was going to dismiss it and move on another man, probably in his early 30s or late 20s walked past me and decided to make disturbing kissing noises. Do they not realise how awful it is? I looked back this time intending to say something but he was looking back at me and smiling, walking away fast. I turned around and walked in the direction I came from not wanting to go any further even though I needed to go to the Post Office which I was too angry to think about at the time. I walked on the opposite side and I was walking fast, until I almost slipped on ice-cream that was on the ground, until another man near me who I didn’t even look at shouted “oh watch out baby” in a sleazy voice.
I stormed off. Looked at myself in the mirror later on and there was NO note on my forehead that said “I’m open for sexual harassment and lewd comments”. I was wearing jeans with a top and trainers, nothing special…not that it matters anyway.
It’s not just Walthamstow market or Walthamstow as a whole, I have received sexual harassment from many areas. Harassers are the problem, NOT me, NOT us!
Another commute to work, another site of buildings living up to their stereotype. Wish I’d had more time to demand a word with their supervisor. Friday morning vibes ruined.
New submission from April
A couple of months ago I was publicly groped by a guy from my college. In front of EVERYONE. I am one of the only out gay kids at my school, and this guy is one of the most vehemently homophobic guys. I was leaning against a wall (with my best to people) trying to find my phone in my bag. He comes up with a bunch of his friends and the next thing I know, I am being pinned against the wall while he humps me in front of all of his friends. I was frozen and didn’t know what to do because it was so sudden. The second I realised what was happening, I tried to push him off but he is a lot stronger than I am and I couldn’t get him off. Eventually he let go and just laughed. I know that this was an openly homophobic thing because the next day, his friends were loudly joking about it in front of me.
The school was great and dealt with it well, but I am still afraid of it happening again.
Good Night Out is the first ever coordinated national action around safety on nights out – calling on bars, pubs, venues and clubs to improve their safety policies by signing a pledge and undergoing staff training, with extra advice and support available. We have a brand new website here which tells you more.
Good Night Out has now launched nationally with regional organisers hard at work across the UK and Ireland in Sheffield, Edinburgh, Norwich and Norfolk, Bristol, Glasgow, Nottingham, Brighton, Galway, Limerick, and the Medway towns in Kent, with more cities signing up every day! Lots of these are existing Hollaback teams bringing GNO to their towns and cities.
Venues undergo specialist Good Night Out training thats practical and focussed on how to respond to harassment and avoid victim blaming, and displaying customised posters with the pledge:
We’re now 69% of the way there with our crowdfunding. As an independent and unfunded campaign run by volunteers around the UK and Ireland and surviving on donations, we REALLY need this cash so we can make an impact in the coming year.
With this money, we’ll print customised posters, pay our graphic designer and web design volunteers, improve our website and maybe even be able to MEET some of our regional organisers instead of just Skyping! We’ll continue to build on our partnerships and push this issue right up the agenda.
New submission from Morgan
I was walking back to work after doing some shopping at lunch and a man over 6 feet tall with a puffy grey coat stopped in the middle of the street staring at me. He planted his feed, held his hands near his crotch and stuck his tongue out like a dog. He turned his head with me and watched as I tried to quickly walk past and ignore him. I was really shaken up after this.